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As it turns out, men are virtually hard-wired to like watching or reading about others having sex. Here's why they do it and why it's probably ok.
Most nights, after his wife, Kate, had gone to bed, Tom surfed the net for porn. Kate learned about this during their second session of couples therapy. Despite Tom's claims that his nocturnal habit had nothing to do with their love life, she worried he preferred porn to having sex with her.
That's a common reaction. "Often, one partner has a porn interest, and also the other thinks that's a problem," says Russell Stambaugh, PhD, an Ann Arbor, Michigan-based psychologist and sex therapist. "It rarely is. The best adult movie (mouse click the following web site) studies suggest that only about 5% of porn users have an issue that stand in the way of their daily life."
That is good news, because a whole lot of individuals look-at porn. Based on a survey by the Pew Internet & American Life Project, 26% of male Internet users visited adult websites (only 3% of women went to these sites). In 2006, the porn industry raked in nearly 13 billion dollars.
For most women, there is no need to stress. Whatever might be drawing a man to porn, it's seldom a reflection on his partner, says sex therapist Lonnie Barbach, PhD, in practice in San Francisco. "Some women feel threatened while they do not think they're as sexy as a porn star," she says. "But it isn't about what he's not getting at home. It's the novelty. It's a turn-on."
Why do a lot of men like looking at pictures of naked people? That is not a very easy question to reply to. Porn-induced arousal has been linked to many parts of the brain. One recent theory holds that mirror neurons, brain cells that fire when an action is performed and when it's observed, play an important role in male arousal. But knowing what is fired up by porn will not tell us why our brains get turned on.
Stambaugh points to evolution. Men's brains, he says, are hard-wired for easy arousal, so that men are ready for sex whenever opportunity knocks -- a propagation-of-the-species thing. With online porn so readily at hand, vicarious opportunities -- cue the mirror neurons -- are ever present.
Once Kate realized that porn was not her replacement and Tom felt less ashamed about his habit, the couple talked more easily about their sex life. And that led to sexy outfits and also a little experimentation within the bedroom. The porn was never the problem, Stambaugh says. "More often times, the problem is the way you talk and how you reveal yourself to each other."
